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Which Dating Site am I forced to drop, cold turkey? Ashley Madison.

By Kristen Published August 14, 2010

I met this pretentious young kid last night off a dating site I’m sure you’re all familiar with, Ashley Madison. He’s single, I’m single, he’s like 22–he said almost 24 oookay–and super aggressive, which I guess was good for when I was 22.. but that’s just too young for me. I couldn’t really take him seriously and he just was NOT my type.. but he was super cute. I even got the wink wink nudge nudge from my lady @applejakx because he was FINE. But 22. And a spoiled brat. So since I didn’t put out last night, I told him I wanted to be taken out for dinner and I didn’t really know him long enough to do that with.. Continue reading »

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Diary of a hopeless online dater

By Kristen Published August 6, 2010

So I have a lot of male friends.. and I’ve met most of them in real life and added them on Facebook. Just not interested in dating them.. and I don’t believe that this is wrong. IT’s my choice. I’m a picky bitch.

And I recently signed back up for some online dating sites for singles: Match (paid), OkCupid, HotorNot, Zoosk, POF , SugarDaddie, Established Men and Ashley Madison… Singlesnet is fucking crazy and you get like 23985235 emails as soon as you sign up and I’d never recommend that one. Continue reading »

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Confucius say, don’t change your Facebook relationship status until you’re married

By Kristen Published May 17, 2010

So…

Wednesday night I went out (technically Tues, Wed, Thurs, Fri, Sat). I’m not going to lie; I’ve been on a bit of a bender; but I’ve been meeting some really cool people along the way so why stop now? It’s technically networking and I am gaining a few meetings that will hopefully turn to social media clientèle this way.

Apparently, after doing so and being a bit more than giddy after a night drinking and a conversation that I must have distinguished as better than normal with the man, I felt the need to change my Facebook relationship status to in one. My bad, I was drunk. I didn’t want to press the subject but here I am, finding myself doing so, and getting like 20 comments praising the whole thing.

Great. No pressure or anything on him. I felt kind of stupid when I woke up and realized the damage I had done, but whatever. I didn’t think it was such a big deal.

Except that his best friend–now a mutual friend of ours–texted him (before he got a chance to see it for himself online) and told him the news that I was, in fact, in a relationship. Now, I don’t know the thoughts that were going through his head exactly, but they had something to do with this train of thought (since we spoke Thurs morning, and I got the gist of it).. “She’s in a relationship. I know she’s hanging out with other dudes, and I’ve probably given her more trust that I should be giving, but I have no clue what is happening now and I’m super upset because I’m insecure about my own relationship status so she must be cheating on me.”

Let’s get one thing straight: I don’t cheat. I’m probably the best girlfriend ever and I just probably needed some affirmation. Lucky me, I got the opposite. After our hour+ call on Thursday morning where I thought I had smoothed over everything and told him I was going to keep it up (another error on my part, apparently), I haven’t heard from him since. It’s been a few days.

So last night I made the decision to change back the damn status/drama back to single. Wish it were that easy to go under the radar, but apparently I got a bunch of new comments ranging from “well that was quick” to “better off that way.” I’m not trying to screw this up further people, I just want to be happy and have a healthy relationship. Unfortunately, I publicized it too soon and must have hurt him along the way.

So Monday morning, I figure I’ll write a blog. Here I am, I did nothing wrong, I just find myself without the man I’ve been falling in love with over the past few months It kills me that he’s out there, probably not knowing what to say to me.. and I’m hoping the “single” thing (or writing this blog he’ll never find) wasn’t the final nail in my coffin. I suck @ relationships. Somebody plz just hypnotize me or something to make me better @ them. I need to think more like a dude.

Hey Jane! Get me off this crazy thing.. called… love?

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With great pleasure comes great pain: Migraines and Orgasms

By Kristen Published May 1, 2010

I get migraines. They’re not so fun and I know they’re migraines because they come with an aura. I get them at least once a month, probably coinciding with my cycle, but recently I’ve been getting them 2x a month. What brings them on is the bigger issue. I get my migraines from orgasming. I can’t see myself avoiding the pleasure that triggers my pain, but I find myself not being able to let go when I am with him.

It’s hard for me to talk about this topic because it has to do with something so intimate, but I do need to find out if anybody else is experiencing these coital headaches and to see if there’s a way to cure them. They get in the way of work and it can’t be pleasant to be around me when I have a pillow over my head all day and need silence. Let me walk you through them:

It’s not just sex. I can trigger these simply by taking a shower or running. They start with a mild headache and neck stiffness a few days prior and I know it’s only a matter of time. Sometimes I trigger them myself by forcing an O. I’m just so uncomfortable the few days beforehand. I see my aura in the upper left quadrant of my vision; starting out as a pinhole in my vision with a blurry colorful buzzing that spreads throughout my whole vision over the course of 20 minutes. As soon as I see the tiny dot is when I take a vicoprofen and try to eat something since I will be sick later. I don’t like Relpax or Imitrex because they haven’t been able to help me with the pain. When I can see, I feel super drunk, whether I take a pill or not. I don’t think straight and I sound like I’m speaking in tongues, so I just try not to speak. Then the pain kicks in. It’s more of a constant pressure in my brain that just doesn’t go away. It kind of feels like I got a concussion from being kicked in the head and this lasts at least 6 hours. Mid-way through my migraine is what scares me the most though: my left side gets this rolling tingling numbness. It starts with my nose becoming itchy and then my bottom lip. The roof of my mouth gets tingly and my left arm and leg fall asleep. When this happens I try not to cry as it’s futile. Unfortunately, I’m awake this whole time because for some reason, even if I’m super tired, I can’t sleep when I have a migraine. It’s just not fun and I’m sure there are others somewhere out there on this wide internet that suffers from the same thing that may have an option for me.

I don’t know if it’s because I’m overheating, my heart is beating faster, or some other variable I just can’t put my finger on. I just know I need them to stop. I’ve abstained from drinking for a month, taking birth control (if you suffer migraines with aura, you are 9x more likely to suffer a stroke if you’re on estrogen–per my neurologist) and quit smoking years ago when I thought that was the issue. I’ve been suffering from them since 2007 and although migraines run in my family, I’m the only one who seems to get the aura. I’ve also gotten fired from a position because I kept getting them and I’ve gotten a few at work from what I think were panic attacks. I got screwed by an IT company in Raynham when I tried to apply for unemployment back in 2008 because they blamed letting me go on unauthorized internet use. You’re a damn IT company, we need to communicate via the internet to sell! Because of that failure, I lost my car and I’m still struggling trying to catch up.

In January of 2010, I decided to start my own company, x10industries, specializing in social media marketing, personal branding and website design. Although it’s a long hard road and I’m still not really making much of an income, I am able to pay the bills and I can work at my own pace and not worry about calling in sick so often because of this disease. I enjoy paying it forward with my BeantownSocial.com, posting events and fun things to my calendar and writing pieces for various companies. I’m still playing around with figuring out how this is all going to earn me an income, but I am starting to build my book of business when it comes down to social media. I also just picked up my first international company!

Things are just starting to pick up for me and I have developed more of a positive mindset than I’ve ever had in my life. I truly enjoy working with the multitude of random public figures, companies and ideas and I’m eager to see what the next chapter of my life will bring. I just wish it could be pain-free…

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This week has been a whirlwind.. Project Cupid too..

By Kristen Published February 5, 2010

Wow. What a week.

If you told me 10 years ago I’d take a profession in social media, I’d probably laugh @ you. I didn’t really do so well taking apart and putting back together computers in my parents’ basement, and I definitely didn’t fare well with the boys when it came to dating; but here I am, a Social Media Producer consulting for companies such as CoupMe, Lynn Murphy TV, Elite Skin Rejuvenation Day Spa, Arrow Limo and Precision Web Marketing (FYI the websites are being updated so come back in a mont!) ultimately and participating as a charity date in Project Cupid’s 1st Annual Auction. I’m hoping I bring more in than $2.50. We’ll see!

So I have to get on this whole #FollowFriday thing on Twitter and I am going to put it out there today on the blog. Promise.

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You’re such a nice guy, but all I want to do is…

By Kristen Published February 4, 2010

I met a guy.

What else is new?

So I met this guy, and he’s just so fun, and we get along, and he networks, and he’s totally trigger-happy with the referrals, which in this social media industry is AWESOME.. but, alas , he has a girlfriend. Someone who cooks him chicken. Someone in the medical field. He has “fun” with her.

Jealous. Totally jealous.

So he’s wicked nice… yah, he’s using me for social media; I’m using him for his car… and to look @ him.

What kind of grinds my gears is the fact that he said he wasn’t so good @ networking but apparently we were playing a game: who knows more people here.. and he won. by 2.

People: I think I’ve met my match. My equal. My broken arrow.

But… when will he think the same? What do I tell the peops I’m talking to @ the moment when I figure out I’m so bored with them and that I really only want to talk to the one person in this world I’ve connected to in the past year..

Stay tuned… for another episode of… THE KRIS10 SHOW!!! 2010. Patent pending.

Wish me luck plz. <3

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The Name Game

By Kristen Published January 30, 2010

I have to stop dating guys who have close to the same name. Chris, Kris, S’well, M’worth.. it’s getting confusing sorting everybody out.. especially when I have a date with one guy from Plenty of Fish and can’t match a name to a profile

How does one organize dating? Do I start a file with a name on the folder and a photo stapled to the inside? Inside are a collection of date fact finders.. with a complete form filled out with whatever he did incorrectly (and correctly.. yah right) during each time we went out. Witty? check. Stylish? check. Paid for everything? check… okay now he gets a red folder because he’s moved up in my ranks

Patent pending.

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My Best Valentines Day 2010

By Kristen Published January 24, 2010

Per the request of Citysearch.. here’s my list and here’s a link to your Boston Dictators Twitter Stream

I would start my morning on the Red Line to Cambridge, hopefully with a couple of single no-plans, no-worries gal pals… because I’m only just dating around and nobody really qualifies for Valentines Day date honors…

Sunday Brunch @ Friendly Toast

I would totally start every Sunday @ Friendly Toast if the line wasn’t out the door, constituting a 2 hour wait! My to-do list here includes the Almond Joy Pancakes I usually split with company because they’re HUGE.. and the spicy Huevos Rancheros with the spicier cayenne cheddar toast, which I keep to myself as well as their pint-glass mimosa(s). mmmm.

Ice Skating @ Kendall Square

Bundled up head to toe, we’d make our way to the outdoor skating rink @ Kendall. For only $5 admission ($3 with a valid student ID) and $8 to rent skates, this is a no-brainer to kill time when you’re buzzing off the booze from morning brunch.. If you are new to skating, lessons are only $30 for a half hour or they also have classes that run 2/3-3/14 on Saturdays or Sundays for $90.

Shopping @ Harvard Square

What’s a good Valentine’s Day without a good ol’ shopping fest? Since my ladies and I are not attached, we have to foot the bill ourselves :-p That’s okay, there’s also always window-shopping. Where else to go find the biggest collection of eclectic and eccentric pieces in MA than Cambridge? Taste of Culture for international pieces, Beadworks to create custom jewelry for each other, Hempest to get, you know, hemp stuff. I’d say this takes up a good two hours of getting lost and trying not to have a bead fight and getting thrown out this time…

Booze Shopping @ Old Colony Liquors

Since we all have to gather ourselves for dinner and get dressed for the whole spectacle of things, I have to make a packy run. I live in Quincy, so after riding the Red Line back into my corner of Boston Metro, I have to go to Old Colony. Here, they have an extensive wine and beer collection and they’ll even order bottles that will be in stock for my next trip if they don’t currently carry them! Can’t beat that.

Spirit of Boston

If I’m really looking to “do it up,” me and the ladies are headed over to the Harbor to enjoy dinner and a cruise. They have a huge buffet, so even my picky vegetarian friend can’t complain, and we’d each get a free rose upon boarding and a glass of champagne to toast all the couples. Don’t worry, we’ll be tearing up the dance floor with all the couples and probably grab the MC or a bartender to liven it up…

VOX

Where’s the best place to find 20-30-somethings waiting to pick up some really dolled up and gorgeous 20-something women in Boston? On Valentine’s Day? Vox, duh. Vox’s bar hosts the biggest collection of single honies in the city, unless someone’s holding out on me. Their drinks aren’t bad either.. but it’s the company that single-us want to gain and we’re already dressed to the nines and warmed up to go mingle… so mingle on!

Taxi home. Be responsible

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I think I’m addicted to dating sites.

By Kristen Published January 12, 2010

I can’t help it. I can’t stop myself. I just randomly click on an email from someone off Match, Ashley Madison, Plenty of Fish, etc. and I end up clicking through to roughly 20 new men each time I venture to the site. Is that bad? Discuss

Also, I think I cracked the code when it comes down to finding the most honies on the site. The more you pay for a longer subscription, the more you get out of it Meaning, the more men, puppies, etc. you see on a consistent basis. I just signed up for 6months of Match and it seems to have opened up a portal to honeytown. I wonder how many potential Mr. Haley’s are out there if I spend a mint? Does anybody else have any experience with this?

LMK!

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Some guys are just douchebags

By Kristen Published January 10, 2010

and that’s how I like em.. to an extent… apparently. I think I’m a bit of a masochist. Clearly, I’ve got to be since I’ve been ex-ting a lot recently. Is it booty-call season this month b/c i’m getting a lot of random calls… well, maybe not so random. And not a lot. But a couple.. and yes, I’ve been good and I haven’t been acting upon them ))

So remember that guy I went on a date w/ to Douzo a couple of days ago? We went to Coda on Friday, and he turned out to be psycho. I can’t go into much detail but I guess psycho always either lies within the guy or me, right? His nickname henceforth is Piven b/c he throws the same sort of temper tantrums you’d think Jeremy Piven would only have. Just because you have money and are well-traveled doesn’t mean you can treat people like they’re pieces of sh*t. Or talk to me in that way. Or else I’ll blog about you. At least I’m nice and don’t use names…

I’m just truly disappointed b/c I was looking forward to going to the unfortunate and frigid Patriots game today.. we were going to find a scalper selling tickets.. Just because I said “this isn’t going to work out,” when we hung out the other night doesn’t mean i don’t want to be your friend and KEEP A DAMN DATE, or at least have the decency to text me or call me and say, it’s not going to work out.. why are we going to keep our plans?

I just left my day open b/c I keep commitments. This was a huge let-down for me b/c not only did he ignore my texts–which were simple and just “hey, are we on for Sunday,” he ignored my IM on Facebook as well. I’m not trying to be too overbearing here, I just wanted to know if I was meeting as planned.. or not.. which would have been fine; but I did want to go to the game with someone and I could have at least made some plans had you been straightforward. Douche.

And then there is still the boy who is currently texting me with “my milkshake brings all the boys to the yard.” He’s not my type, but I date him b/c he’s nice to me.. I’m not too big of a fan of the techno he listens to and is his ringtone. I’m not a good person when it comes down to this dating thing. At all. Hope nobody from Match stumbles upon this blog; might be a dealbreaker.

I really hope I didn’t get sick when I made out with Piven and his nose was stuffy. I’m starting to whistle out of my nose and I hope it doesn’t become an issue. Then I’ll have nobody to bring me Cheesecake’s chicken tortilla soup… an essential when you’re sick.

Oh, yah.. I got a shiatsu massage and facial in Chinatown last night.. more on that after the break :-*

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